Questions without answers, yet
The hours after Lee proposed and I accepted, left me in a period of reverie. All I could do was blog an entry about our relationship declaration ceremony and his proposal, email a few of my girlfriends, think about calling my dad and stare at my laptop, blankly. It took me a while to realise,
this is the time we begin planning for the wedding.That was a rather surreal shock, honestly. Because, until that moment, I'd been merely toying with wedding ideas carelessly. The reality of actually planning a wedding, and preparing for marriage, was sinking in with a tinge of panic.
What do I do? Where do I even begin??
Thankfully, Sourrain was online and she said,
Pick a year, then a month, and roughly when.Right well, that sounds easy enough. Except for a few things.
a) Being non-permanent in Sydney will make the task of communicating with Lee about planning rather daunting. Not to mention the cost of travel between the two cities for us.
b) There will be two locations and ceremonies to deal with - Kuala Lumpur & Sydney.
c) My remoteness will be doubled later on when the film officially begins. Which brings me to a stalemate at a date because the film is indefinitely delayed for now.
d) And, along with the wedding prep I will need to juggle getting the paperwork for my Prospective Marriage visa in order.
Despite that, there's at least two things I can answer.
* A small Sydney ceremony & reception would certainly be first due to visa requirements. I say small because it's obviously expensive to hold a reception there. But the thing is, my girlfriends and a cousin in the US have already requested one (even before Lee proposed!). Go figure! =P Heh.
* I'd want our church wedding in KL. So this means I'd have to be with Lee in Sydney long enough to attend the Catholic Marriage Preparation course, which requires a minimum six months notice prior to church wedding date.
The questions rallying in my mind are-
* Should we have the traditional Chinese Tea ceremony? In some way, it would be a novelty for Lee's side of the family. I'm really unsure about this because of the lack of family connections on my dad's side, plus we're not very traditional about our Chinese culture at all.
* Should I even consider any traditional elements at all, or just go with what Lee and I want?
It's no wonder eloping is such a tempting idea. Would that be cheating?
Comments
well, as your brother. and somebody who isnt a big fan of chinese hussy fussy weddings, i strongly suggest something more in line which what you and lee want.
besides, you should know how our family works. none of chinese bull crap.
we're so westernized, we make LEE more chinese *pun intended*
anyways,
i offer these 3 things as a wedding gift from me to you
1) to gather up a band of friends to play for the reception/dinner or church wedding.
FOC
2) to write and record a wedding song for you guys.
chargable depending on recording quality..
and
3) if you need "event management" help. i'm always here.
for FREE again....
i predict i'll be out of business soon..haha
alda | May 4, 2007 8:31 AM
Zona.....abt that church preps, it only takes a weekend. ;) so check with ur parish priest. i'm sure they EE group can help u out there. thats what ted did, he came over for abt a week or 10 days to exact n i scheduled it in together with submitting our papers with JPN. all done within 10days. shouldn't be a problem. they have 3 centres if i'm not mistaken - kl, ipoh & penang. just need to speak to father n get yourselves registered. check this out : http://www.geocities.com/ceepenang/
Yvy | May 4, 2007 1:22 PM
ppsstt...on more thing, your blog theme so niceeeeeeeeeeee!! :) your own design?
Yvy | May 4, 2007 1:23 PM
Good luck! I started thinking about this nearly a year ago and even then I got a massive headache. BUT...after a while, you'll see that everything will fall into place. Finding a good forum for brides-to-be helps lower stress levels. Almost every bride I know goes nuts during wedding preps.
If you aren't going to be around, it helps to get a wedding planner to handle all the details. You just show up for the wedding and enjoy yourself. LOL.
Mei | May 8, 2007 11:39 PM
Yvy: i've decided to do the course in Sydney for a few reasons. some personal, the other is cos Lee won't be able to get leave days. Plus its too expensive for us to be flying back and forth so often. Better just for the weddings anyway.
re: design. yup, all my own ^_~
mei: thanks! ^_^
bro: *^_^*
zona marie | May 16, 2007 4:18 PM