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One step up
Definitely the unconventional and more modern way of doing this. Come Friday, April 27th - Lee and I will be declaring our relationship with the City of Sydney.
A month ago, we went to the city council office to register with the Relationship Declaration Program. We decided that it might help my de facto relationship PR application later on, and would also be a step up for our commitment to each other. It's set for April 27th, 11.30am (GMT 10) at the Glebe Town Hall.
I am nervous about it, being the commitment-phobe by record. Yet somehow, it's a step I want to take, albeit slowly, towards a more permanent commitment. The traditionalist in me argues that the de facto relationship provisions are a bane to marriage. But Australian society is such, again because of the high cost of living where people can't even afford to get married, and the thought that marriage is merely an institutional rite of passage replaced by cohabitation. I feel it such a pathetic thing, that a celebration of two people's commitment is devalued by people's disillusionment through divorces and have become a profit-making industry that puts people off the whole affair. Why do weddings have to be about money?
The traditionalist in me is disappointed with my decision to go this way. Admitting that I am one of those girls who have dreamed of a lavish affair for that once-in-a-lifetime moment, I am saddened by this eventual reality to have to resort to this, temporarily. Although, the rebel inside me wishes to prove otherwise.
In the meantime, Shaz asked what I was going to wear and said I should have flowers for hope. I don't know what to think of it. In some way, it is special. But even being congratulated for it, I feel awkward.
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Zona, you'd be so surprised. Do you know that a lot of girls these days register their marriage OR live together BEFORE doing the whole tea ceremony/reception bit? Frankly, I see it to be only slightly different than what you're doing.
At the end of the day, what matters is that you took it a step further - it's better than staying stagnant.
Congrats!!!!!!!!
Mei | April 23, 2007 1:51 PM
:) Congrats in advance! Flowers would certainly make the day seem more special n refreshing no? :)
Yvy | April 23, 2007 3:55 PM
congrats! oh, lily on your hair would look gorgeous :)
interesting programme. wonder if we have the same here..
kris | April 23, 2007 7:34 PM
The worst things about Marriage -
1. Cost of the thing. [Mine was cheap in 1990 and cost AUD$10,000]
2. Divorce - Cost me money to go to Court [AUD$500 in 1998], and if I wanted to settle the money etc, it would have cost more money for the courts and mor fo lawyers to sort out.
3. Left with nothing - My Ex and her BF took almost everything we owned, so I was starting from Scratch.
4. 1 Year wait after seperating before you can go to court to get marriage dissolved - this is supposed to be in case a couple 'reconcile', though in many cases it's just a one year painful wait for some of us. The wait hasn't helped the divorce rate as far as I know ... but, for me it also meant not getting a GF or anything for that year, as I'd technically be breaking my marriage vow.
Dabido (Teflon) | April 23, 2007 9:05 PM
Congratulations!
Wish you a beautiful life.
SK | April 24, 2007 5:09 AM
That is a +ve step - yes? Its shows that Lee sees having you in his future and the separation is but a mere hiccup.
Small steps make great progress chica. Good on ya.
mirebella | April 24, 2007 9:12 PM
Congrats! Every step you take will be one step closer to making a serious commitment (be it for PR or not).
The only bane to everything you two have worked so hard to achieve is being uncertain; something I hope neither is having.
So, go for it, babe ! Many hugs :-)
Lisa Y | April 24, 2007 11:37 PM
Congratulations!
And yes, lilies for your hair/bouquet would look gorgeous :)
lynn.wabbit | April 25, 2007 12:56 AM
gratz Z! :D
Didn't realise I see you do this so soon.
It's truly sad though that the world does relate marriage to money. That's why I'm still single up till today. haha
That said, I do believe there's still grounds for you to be 'traditional'. It could be some form of an 'engagement'. In the mean time, (maybe it's time to give into the world) save up for that wedding?
azxel | April 26, 2007 2:05 PM
yar, save up for wedding... ^ ^
azxel, maybe u can try ur luck in muar...~ gambateh!
hoyoyi | April 28, 2007 12:02 PM