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Online relationship, no more
So I admit I haven't written anything vaguely romantic or heartfelt about my online relationship with Lee of late. The geek & the geekette, was close enough I guess. But those of you who've grown fond of reading my thoughts about the relationship would know it isn't the same as the others, and are probably missing it.
I am too. It's the moment wherein the inevitable reality has begun to set in, and the so-called honeymoon period is over. I'm not saying that I am no longer over the moon with him. I mean that, as the countdown of days nears to when I leave for Sydney, it no longer will be an online relationship.
We will be a real couple, like everyone else. Only with a story to tell, about how we've met. He's already begun telling me of events and places we'll have to go, people we'll have to meet once I arrive in Sydney. Part of me feels it surreal, that this upsidedown-LDR will turn rightside up when I begin to get acquainted with his world.
We've started to make plans and talk about the direction we'll be taking our relationship. Not so much the expectations, but how we'll begin to incorporate our lives. More so mine into his at this time. It's a lot for me to deal with, yet nothing I'm unwilling to. The excitement is there. Along with my family and all my friends cheering me on.
"Your choices today determine your tomorrow and you make your life through the power of choice." ~Kathy Smith
It's time to move on.
Comments
Nothing like closing your eyes and stepping off into the unknown for what you want. How many people get to do that? How many people are willing to do that?
That's something worth doing in life I say. :)
Edrei | November 3, 2006 2:04 PM
That is so exciting! I lived in with my bf/now hubby from our FIRST date. :P And that was like 20 years ago.
lilian | November 3, 2006 2:16 PM
thanks edrei. it was kinda scary... but it definitely brings the word "taking the plunge" to life, if u know what i mean ^_~
lilian: from your FIRST date? wow. it's kinda daunting to me - having to live with him. what did you go thru? *^_^*
midnite lily | November 3, 2006 3:13 PM
aiyah i wanna wish you the best best best of luck. we all make huge sacrifices for the people we love, and yes i suppose it's a gamble. you don't make a decision for the future, you sign a do-or-die contract because you are convinced by the present.
with that i hope you'll not think too much about the future and just work on keeping the 'now' as memorable as you can. good luck!
minishorts | November 3, 2006 5:07 PM
tks minishorts... as the wise one used to tell me "The moment you're concerned with the outcome, you lose the winning edge." heheh...
midnite lily | November 3, 2006 5:28 PM
Take it as a form of change, take it as it comes along but more importantly, take it with heart that you're moving along the way together hand-in-hand with someone you love.
Nothing beats erasing the distance. ^.^
Mei | November 3, 2006 11:53 PM
Mei.....the way you said it...nothing beats erasing the distance...sounds like 'happily ever after' in fairy tales....whereas in reality that's just the beginning...hope you do realize that
ront | November 4, 2006 2:14 AM
a l'amour! I remember the butteflies over the unknown...especially when it comes to leaving those comfort zones behind for the chance to let someone special into your heart...tearing down walls to connect more intimately. Scary, but good. Best of Luck to you! Vive l'amour!
queenkv | November 4, 2006 11:23 PM
It took me two years of living together before we got married and yeap, we do live happily ever after. LOL.
lilian | November 5, 2006 2:56 PM
lilian *^_^* fairytale ending's inspirational. heheh... mine's gonna be "the domestication of midnite lily"... muahahah... =P
thanks queenkv
mei, ront's rite.. he's been there ^_~ yup, it's scary, but nothing beats erasing the distance!
midnite lily | November 5, 2006 3:32 PM
Ront, I know it's just the beginning and that there are NO happily ever afters like in a fairy tale. Trust me, I know what I'm saying.
However, knocking yourself silly with worries/fear takes the enjoyment out of a relationship. That's why the first words were "take it as a form of a change..."
Hm. I need to be more direct next time and go "ML: Take a chill pill, followed by a deep breath and know this: If it doesn't work out, you can always kick his ass and come back."
^.~
Mei | November 5, 2006 6:51 PM
the both of u know what you're saying ^_^ hee...
(Mei, he's >10,000kms from home also cos of a girl.. heehee..)
yeah, subtlety's lost on the internet. hahah.. i like ur last quote ^_~
midnite lily | November 6, 2006 10:52 AM
Don't worry. As long as you acknowledge that every path twists and turns, no harm enjoying the anticipation and the sights along the way.
For what it's worth, my friend quit her job and uprooted to Hong Kong to marry someone with whom the relationship had been 90% conducted online. They're still going strong. :)
spot | November 6, 2006 12:45 PM
*^_^* Thanks Spot! I've heard a lot more positive stories from online romances, than bad ones. And we're quite optimistic about things (he more than I tho', cos I'm the worrier... heheh).
midnite lily | November 6, 2006 1:26 PM