She was a high maintenance woman, who takes shopping trips abroad, works for a glamourous multinational company and was a few years older than him. The call for a break up sent him into a frenzy. He admitted he couldn't provide for her now, but since meeting her he had begun to plan his life around her in all kinds of ways. From working really smart with his new job to get his year end bonus, researching lovely travel destinations to go on holiday with her, to buying a house and a new car next year... In other words, he was carefully saving and calculating every financial detail, giving his 110% to give her everything she wanted. All he needed was her time and patience.

A few weeks fast forward from that meeting, and he's still feeling depressed that she wouldn't let on. And his sharing his heart out to me is making me cry. Here is a decent, loving, respectful, God-fearing Malaysian guy, who is being broken by a woman who puts money first. Even if she tells him she loves and cares for him now, I don't know if she'll stick through it later on if things don't work out for him financially. I wish I was proven wrong though.

Yes, despite asking where all the good guys are, I know some of them exist and feel terribly hurt that some have been tormented like this. Some women can be so selfish, and can turn good guys into monsters inevitably. I love this friend like a dear brother and don't want to see him hurt. I know he deserves much better.

Prior to this, I had written a long entry in reverse (dissing Malaysian women and the stupid things they do to get a boyfriend) to share how liberal I was in seeing both sides of the coin. But it was too nasty. I'd rather share with you this instead and show that where there are bad guys, there are bad women too. Its nature's balance, I suppose. Because without getting hurt and learning from it, how will we learn to appreciate the good things we have?

Check out this short animation for a laugh. A hillarious but truthful look at male-female relationships.
Hearts & Hammers