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For the love of the Internet

Single male (red hair, long arms, interests include hanging in trees and grooming) seeks female for long-distance relationship and possibility of meeting up in future to help save species.

Would you answer a dating ad like that? Hahah... You'd need to be as hairy and long-armed first. Oh, and it'd help if you were an orang... the hutan (forest) type. Yeah, even the orang utans are looking for love online!

Online dating and finding love on the Internet's always been something I was skeptical about. Only for the mere fact that the mind's a tricky thing. I've argued on the basis that meeting potential partners online could be about you filling in the imaginary gaps of the person in your head. If you were in a desparate state, you'd easily "imagine up" the person's qualities that you want. Or not notice quirks that you hate. Or even one side could be lying. You'll never know if the person was a stalker and knew enough about you to sweep you off your feet.

So yeah, Lee had to deal with all my doubts and anal skepticism - and calling him a "stalker". (Hahah.. hey, a girl's got to be careful, rite?) Well, even until the moment he arrived in KL, he didn't get let off very easily. Despite all the surface testing (ISO...?), I have to admit I was taken in already in the first place. It was the size of his *ahem* email that got my attention at first. Then after I had read how he poured out his heart into it, there was just something that felt right. There are just some things in his email that makes me laugh, looking back at it today. Sometimes I wonder if they seemed like premonitions or just a lighthearted joke.

Whatever it was, five months down the road now, I don't think either of us would've imagined the things happening now. It is nice to see the good things that can come off the Internet. It's not a common occurance for me and I have been pretty shut out from some bloggers' own online love stories, until now.

My state of denial even went as far as saying, "I don't have a problem meeting people and dating. I didn't go to a dating site." All seemingly insinuating the negative side of such a wonderful communications tool. But I think we probably owe that to all the negative publicity we have in our own Malaysian media. We keep reading of things like, "Girl gets raped meeting IRC chat buddy"... "Bloggers are rumour-mongers"... "Internet breeding ground for paedophiles"... If there's even an inkling of anything positive, it's about our local bloggers being hailed as popular sex-symbols.

Instead of highlighting so much negativity, for once maybe our local media should start digging for real newsworthy stories? Lee sent me this article a couple of weeks ago, about an American theatre director finding her Tassie love match via YouTube. I could even relate to what she said.

Katz admits that after an exhausting and long flight from the US, things were initially "a little awkward" when she first met Nate in the flesh.

"But as soon as we got back to his apartment and started talking and hanging out, it was like we knew each other for years. We just clicked. It was baffling and amazing," she said.

Lee's even told me of a TV programme there that plants its cameras at the Sydney airport to record Internet couples meeting each other for the first time.

Despite being such an active Internet community, I don't think we really know how to embrace the goodness of it the way our Down Under counterparts do. I'm quite fascinated with the way the Sydney Morning Herald's Internet reporting is put to good use.

A little bit of intellectualism and thought helps, I'd say.



Comments

Incidentally I was reading 4colorebellion today, which linked to You only live twice. The writer talked about her teenage love over the internet (emails and faxes)back in 1991

faxes? sending love letters via fax just sounds strange. heheh.. i'll check out the links ^_~ tks.

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