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Kampung boys vs. City boys
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I've been thinking about this for quite a while now, what with being back in the dating market and all... =p It's strange, but not until this year did I start going out and meeting non-KLite guys and noticed a strange difference.
I mean, did you girls ever notice the difference when you date or go out with non-Klang Valley guys? Kwai lohs not included. Let me indicate my feministic points here...
*On a date, Klang Valley(KV) guys would tell you up-front "Let's go dutch!" or wouldn't put up a fight to foot the bill. While the kampung boys, would feel ultimately guilty for having you even offer to pay the bill. It's just wrong to have a girl pay for anything.
*KV guys would immediately whip out the calculator and divide the share once the bill arrives. Kampung boys would sometimes sneak up to the cashier and pay the bill quietly without you realising.
*KV guys would take into account how many tolls they pay just to fetch you from your house, and maybe even ask you to "share" the expenditure. While kampung boys wouldn't mind the distance & think its weird letting the women drive them around.
*Kampung boys would offer to make and bring herbal soup to your doorstep when you're sick. While KV guys would just wish you a get well soon SMS and go out with their buddies. Do they even know how to make herbal soup ah?
*Kampung boys would bring a little something for your family at home with no ulterior motive. While KV guys will only do that as a "passport" to gain favour from girl's parents.
At first I thought it was just a difference of romantic or chivalrous gestures, but upon a bigger sampling (of dates) and talking to some of my friends, I think I found a pattern. A pattern that has made me mistaken a couple of times that the guy was interested. Heh.
So despite their potential ulu-ness, maybe there is hope for the hopeless romantic ladies out there. ^_~ Anyone out there with more to add on the list?
Comments
accurate points...
except for this one.."Kampung boys would offer to make and bring herbal soup to your doorstep when you're sick"...haha ^_^
dRaGon CiTY ™ | November 4, 2005 9:48 AM
i think it's more on upbringing, lah. i've met a lot of KV guys who have the Kg guys gestures. granted, 'going dutch' seems to be a predominantly KV trait, tho... hahahahahah...
zyrin | November 4, 2005 12:13 PM
erm, what does that make me then? i weight the situation b4 deciding to go Dutch or not. i dislike being driven around by women (shy). i bear gifts sometimes to curry favour, sometimes not.
maybe i'm just a Libran!
The Visitor | November 4, 2005 1:35 PM
How about Kampung boy i know that not only buy dukus for his gf but peel them nicely into a container, have them chilled in the fridge and bring over to her house so that she could comfortably savour them without staining her finger nails ? =P
"i wanna grow old wit u" | November 4, 2005 2:57 PM
Hmm... Kg guys certainly do not bring over herbal soup when you're sick.
In times like these, with the world turning men into self glorifying metrosexuals. I've always wondered if there's hope even for the Kg guys? Looks like there is afterall.
That's the nicest thing someone has ever said about us Kg guys. On behalf of all Kg guys in the world, allow me to send you some instant herbal soup 3-in-1 packs. :D
azxel | November 5, 2005 10:08 AM
i sure agree with you on all points you said becoz i HAVE experienced them. i was asked to pay the FULL toll rate and not split...and it cost RM0.50. beat that!!!
one more point to add, KV guys make it a point to tell you the gift they got is an expensive one, even if you don't ask.
eternity | November 5, 2005 10:29 AM
No wonder all the ladies that got attached with the Kampung Boys, will never ever LET THEM go !! hmmm... *a point to ponder*
coco | November 5, 2005 9:07 PM
dragon: =) well, the ones i know do.
zyrin: hahaha... hard to get rid of trait. ^_~
visitor: yea, blame it on the stars! =P
old man: wooohoo! ultimate in chivalry!
azxel: i didn't know u were a kg boy. if u can buy 3-in-1, then u can make it first too! heheh..
eternity: 50sen also want to split meh? =P
coco: la la la...
midnite lily | November 6, 2005 1:01 AM
Damn! I'm so Ulu. Born and bred in Kpg. KL is such a culture shock.
BTW, latest news... Kebakaran di sebuah Kilang Chocolate in Prai, Pg.
2 words- Coklat Cair.
I'm going there.....
muteaudio | November 6, 2005 11:05 PM
Dear Midnite Lily,
Where can I find a kampung boy of my own?
Help!
Justine
justine | November 7, 2005 10:32 AM
mute: waaaaaaah... river of chocolate. gee, ure so not going to balik KL. =P
dear justine,
I recommend putting up a personal ad. ^_~ ml
midnite lily | November 7, 2005 11:23 AM
Chivalry is dead whether kampung or KV *Min making a mental note to bring up chivalrous children*
Min | November 7, 2005 3:27 PM
^_^ adam'll be a heartbreaker!
i'm dying to ask tho, was PT chivalrous when u were dating? =D
midnite lily | November 7, 2005 3:42 PM
Aik, toll also want to split ah. If from JB to KL make sense la. But then I don't drive and I live in a town with no toll gate every 2 km so maybe I'm a bit biased la.
BawangMerah | November 7, 2005 5:52 PM
I dunno i consider myself a kpg boy or city boy.
1. i did boil soup "chicken soup" for my gf.
2. I paid most for dinners and movies.
3. sometimes when travelling long distance from KL to Penang... she would pay all of it.. and i will pay for the petrol.
4. i call my gf every night before she sleeps...
5. i bought her biscuits from ipoh every time she flies back to Labuan... she would always say, "my mom loves it" even though i bought it just for her...
william wilstroth | November 7, 2005 6:03 PM
red onion & will: u actually kg boy or city boy?
will, u have more city-boy traits wor. chicken soup with herbs? heheh =P
midnite lily | November 7, 2005 6:15 PM
Well, It's normal to have people lining up admitting that they've KB trait & not KV.
The simple truth is, u'll not even realised that u've KB traits until someone else tell it to your face.
Will, your gf must be one lucky woman. But as far as I know, KB don't even allow their gf to pay for the toll ! hehe.. =P
Bottomline, KB give till it hurts .. and still giving .. giving .. giving .. giving ..
cockapoo | November 8, 2005 12:34 AM
Ahaha this is quite true XD. My friend visits my mom once in a while and gave her biscuits even though he already has a gf, sometimes I think he's after my mom :P.
William: Way to go for Ipoh guys haha XD
Miaka | November 8, 2005 7:05 PM
yeah, it is the giving & giving.. & giving til it hurts & giving some more that's the main difference.
miaka: heheh.. u sure he's NOT after ur mom =P
midnite lily | November 8, 2005 9:54 PM
yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :yawnz... i think we better round up this debate ! Lots of KB gonna get some hard bashing by KVB in KL soon. :<
Errr... i'm a KV boy .. i'm a KV boy !! Leave me ALONE !
cockapoo | November 9, 2005 11:28 AM
As a KV boy, I think you may have hit on something interesting. I find that most KV males never grow up (hence the reference boy vs. man) as most have been waited hand and food by overprotective parents...and the more affluent ones by their maids, drivers etc.
Case in point, I have lived on my own for 11 years but when I go home, I expect my mummy to take care of everything while I veg *hides face in shame*
JC | November 11, 2005 11:08 PM
oh man....I'm a Kg boy and I've been in KL for 3 years. Have never ever gone dutch with a girl before....now that i know what they expect of KV boys....I think going dutch is worth a try on my next date LOL
Ken | May 16, 2007 1:38 AM